Let me just start off by saying that I am a first time mom, and by no means do i need anyones opinion on how to raise my son. I can't stand when people try to tell me I should do this instead of that. I shouldn't let him eat or drink certain things. That literally makes my blood boil. Like shut up and let me find out on my own. I especially hate when People who aren't actually parents try to give me advice. Why in the world do these people fix their lips to say anything about raising a child when they have no clue what to do. I just feel like there's no need to take advice from someone who isn't where you are. By that I mean why the hell would I take advice from someone who doesn't what their talking about and haven't even been in a similar situation. And just to be honest at first I wanted all the advice in the world and I adhered to it. Simply because I was a 19 year old mom and a yes man, If someone said you should do this instead of that, I would do it. Which is now the reason why I hate asking for advice or getting unwanted advice.
eing a parent isn't the easiest job and the world and you cant learn how to do it over night but I would like to learn the ins and outs by myself. I feel like everyone has their own style of parenting and I too will figure out mine one of these days. To all of the assholes who give stupid unwanted advice your advice is more like criticism than help.
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This is an informal assignment based off a movie we watched during class which is Step Brothers. This movie is about two middle-aged men (Brennan, and Dale) who still live at home with their parents. These step brothers finally get a taste of reality when their parents marry which ends up in a divorce caused by them. The brothers only have a few days to finally start their adult lives and live on their own. They grow apart from each other but end up meeting up again when Brennan hosts and event that Dale caters. In my writing I wrote a letter to the brothers explaining why I think their behavior is unacceptable at their age and is partly their parents fault for enabling their behavior. I also provide information about different parenting styles as far as the parenting styles that their parents raised them by and the parenting style I think they should've been raised by,
Brennan and Dale have this sense of entitlement due to the way they were raised. They think they should have everything handed to them. They don't know what its like to earn their own money and to have their own success. They both constantly rely on their parents and they have allowed it for so long that when it was time to move out and do for themselves they had a hard time. Instead of Robert and Nancy empowering Dale and Brennan, they continued to enable them which lead to their behavioral issues. The parents haven't yet learned how to draw the line between letting them learn on their and bailing them out every time something happens. If Robert and Nancy set boundaries from the very beginning, Brennan and Dale would not be as needy. I made many great resolutions when my child was born. Some were indistinct, if heartfelt, I'll take good care of you, I'll keep you safe. Some were particular: I'll breastfeed you for a few months, i'll never hit you. It was a very significant turning point, the birth of my child, filled with pain and many emotions. This was definitely something I would remember forever.
Being a mom made me accountable. I could no longer write things off as a lapse in judgment or a drunken mistake. From the moment the pregnancy test shot out confetti and flashed more colored stripes than a circus tent, my decisions actually meant something. I had to be responsible for my choices, and that realization nearly knocked me off the toilet seat, pee stick still in hand. Not cool. Being a mom also taught me to have patience. Patience with myself and others. Which became this weird paradox of increasing patience with my increasingly demanding child and a distinct decrease in my patience with all others. I am now able to wait calmly in the face of frustration or adversity. No longer getting anxious. Being a mom has made me a completely different person. My son gives me the strength to continue doing what i'm doing, before I cared nothing about going to school or even completing it for that matter. His smile lightens up even the darkest room and to have the privilege to be able to see it everyday makes me want to do more. I wouldn't change it for the world. |
Alexis MotonOn my blog I will post my assignments as well as any daily thoughts I have. As well as my given assignments such as my 3 major blogs, My Hiraeth, Four Academic Mindsets Assignments, and finally my Film-Based Project. I hope you enjoy! Archives
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